Yak\u0131n birinin ihaneti g\u00fcveni, al\u0131\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f d\u00fczeni, evin g\u00fcvenli bir yer olarak alg\u0131lanmas\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131kar. Bu materyal, darbeyi a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanmadan nas\u0131l atlataca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, ili\u015fkileri nas\u0131l tarafs\u0131z de\u011ferlendirece\u011finizi, kocan\u0131z\u0131n aldatmas\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l affedece\u011finizi, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 krize nas\u0131l \u00e7ekmeyece\u011finizi ve kendinizi kaybetmeyece\u011finizi anlaman\u0131z\u0131 sa\u011flar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Neden ihanet bu kadar derin yaralar<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nAldatma ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, sadece bir yan\u0131lsama de\u011fil, t\u00fcm i\u00e7sel yap\u0131 y\u0131k\u0131l\u0131r. Daha d\u00fcn kime g\u00fcvenece\u011fini, ak\u015fam kime dayanaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, kimle hafta sonu ve ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 planlayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyordu. Sonra her \u015feyi de\u011fi\u015ftiren bir ger\u00e7ek geliyor. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ma\u011fdur taraf sadece aldatma de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanma, \u015fok, korku, fiziksel gerginlik, saplant\u0131l\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131r. B\u00f6yle bir durumda yemek yemek, uyumak, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, yak\u0131nlar \u00f6n\u00fcnde maske takmak zor olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00d6zellikle uzun s\u00fcre gizlenen aldatma a\u011f\u0131r ya\u015fan\u0131r. O zaman sadece ili\u015fki de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda uzun yalan s\u00fcreci de yaralar. Ma\u011fdur taraf s\u0131kl\u0131kla aylar hatta birka\u00e7 y\u0131ll\u0131k ortak tarihi yeniden g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irmeye ba\u015flar, detaylar\u0131 hat\u0131rlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r, tahminlerini kontrol eder, vaatler ve hareketler aras\u0131nda k\u0131yaslama yapar. Bu da ani de\u011fi\u015fimlere yol a\u00e7ar: <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- sabahlar\u0131 evlili\u011fi s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek iste\u011fi; <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u00f6\u011fleden sonra e\u015fyalar\u0131 toparlamak iste\u011fi;<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- geceler ise her \u015feyi ne pahas\u0131na olursa olsun geri getirme iste\u011fi do\u011far.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Kabul etmek, h\u0131zl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde bar\u0131\u015fmak anlam\u0131na gelmez. S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 kald\u0131rmak anlam\u0131na da gelmez. Ac\u0131 yokmu\u015f gibi davranmak anlam\u0131na gelmez. Bu konudaki ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama, ihanetin t\u00fcm i\u00e7sel alan\u0131n merkezi oldu\u011fu travmatik d\u00f6ng\u00fcden yava\u015f yava\u015f \u00e7\u0131kmak demektir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u00f6yle bir yol her zaman zaman al\u0131r. Burada h\u0131zl\u0131 olan yaln\u0131zca d\u00fcrt\u00fclerdir. Derinlemesine i\u015fleme, g\u00fc\u00e7, sessizlik, d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck ve ger\u00e7ekleri g\u00f6zlemlemeyi gerektirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130lk g\u00fcnlerde ne yap\u0131lmal\u0131<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nKritik anda zihin an\u0131nda bir yan\u0131t talep eder. Kimi ki\u015filer o ak\u015fam partnerini evden kovmak ister. Kimileri ise konuyu kapat\u0131p eski ya\u015famlar\u0131na tutunmak ister. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her iki u\u00e7 da tehlikelidir. \u00d6ncelikle gerilimi azaltmak, temel istikrar\u0131 geri getirmek ve \u015fokun zirvesindeyken kaderi belirleyecek bir se\u00e7im yapmamak gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Basit ad\u0131mlar atmakla ba\u015flamak faydal\u0131d\u0131r. Normal bir yemek yemek. V\u00fccuda en az\u0131ndan k\u0131sa aral\u0131klarla uyku vermek. Sonsuz mesaj okumay\u0131 durdurmak. Gece vakti \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bir \u015fahs\u0131 aramamak. Arkada\u015flar\u0131 24 saat \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir merkeze \u00e7evirmemek. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Evde \u00e7ocuklar varken, yeti\u015fkinin g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam\u0131n ritmini s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmesi gerekir: yemek, yolculuk, okul, g\u00fcnl\u00fck k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck i\u015fler. \u00c7ocuk krizi s\u00f6zlerden \u00f6nce fark eder, bu y\u00fczden sakin bir d\u00fczen a\u011f\u0131r konu\u015fma kadar \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130lk g\u00fcn kendinize \u00fc\u00e7 soruya cevap vermek faydal\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Birinci: \u015eimdilik nihai bir karar vermeyebilirsiniz. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u0130kinci: Sadece hayal ve korkulara de\u011fil, ger\u00e7eklere bakacak i\u00e7sel bir kaynak var m\u0131. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc: \u0130\u00e7indeki \u00f6fke kaynasa bile, e\u015f diyalog \u015fans\u0131n\u0131 korumak istiyor mu. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Kesin cevap hemen gelmez, ancak b\u00f6yle bir ara, birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn i\u00e7inde daha net de\u011ferlendirilebilecek \u015feyleri y\u0131kmaktan al\u0131koyar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00d6nemli! E\u011fer \u00e7evrede tehditler, bask\u0131, para veya \u00e7ocuklarla \u015fantaj veya fiziksel sald\u0131r\u0131 riski varsa, gelecekle ilgili konu\u015fmalar g\u00fcvenli\u011fin sa\u011flanaca\u011f\u0131 zamana kadar ertelenir.<\/h3>\n\n\n\nKendini yok etmeden konu\u015fmay\u0131 nas\u0131l ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nKonu\u015fma, bir sahne yaratmak i\u00e7in de\u011fil, netlik sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in gereklidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc netlik olmadan olanda bar\u0131\u015f\u0131k kalmak neredeyse imkans\u0131zd\u0131r, beyin bo\u015fluklara yap\u0131\u015f\u0131r ve en korkun\u00e7unu in\u015fa etmeye ba\u015flar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir sohbette sadece i\u00e7erik de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda tarz da \u00f6nemlidir. \u00d6nceden ne \u00f6\u011frenmek gerekti\u011fini, hangi bilgilerin temel oldu\u011funu ve bir sonraki ad\u0131m i\u00e7in hangi ko\u015fullar\u0131n gerekli oldu\u011funu belirlemek faydal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015eu \u015femaya g\u00f6re ilerlemek uygundur:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- \u015eu ana kadar \u00f6\u011frenilenleri k\u0131saca belirtin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Sald\u0131rmadan ve savunmadan konu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 isteyin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Kar\u015f\u0131 tarafla ileti\u015fimin kesildi\u011fi netle\u015ftirilsin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Art\u0131k hangi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n zorunlu oldu\u011funu belirleyin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Anla\u015fmalar\u0131n kontrol format\u0131n\u0131n kabul edilebilir oldu\u011funu tart\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Partner hatay\u0131 kabul etti\u011finde, konuyu e\u015fine kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7evirmedi\u011finde, do\u011frudan yan\u0131t verdi\u011finde, g\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00f6fkeyi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemedi\u011finde d\u00fcr\u00fcst \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma \u015fanslar\u0131 daha y\u00fcksektir. Partner sorular\u0131n var olmas\u0131na k\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, konuyu kapatmay\u0131 talep etti\u011finde, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 dramdan bahsetti\u011finde, partneri k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131kla su\u00e7lad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda iyile\u015fme \u00e7ok daha zor ilerler. Burada \u00f6nemli olan g\u00fczel vaatlere de\u011fil, tekrarlayan davran\u0131\u015flara bakmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Birlik halen ne zaman kurtar\u0131labilir<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nHer ihanet sonras\u0131 evlilik mahkum de\u011fildir. Bazen ili\u015fkileri yeniden bir araya getirmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr, ancak bu, her iki taraf\u0131n da ger\u00e7ek eylemlerini gerektirir. Biri unutmay\u0131 isteyip di\u011feri t\u00fcm ac\u0131y\u0131 tek ba\u015f\u0131na ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, denge geri gelmez. \u0130li\u015fkiler ancak zarar kabul edildi\u011finde, ili\u015fkinin taraf d\u0131\u015f\u0131 oldu\u011fu, kurallar\u0131n belirlendi\u011fi ve sonu\u00e7lar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda sabr\u0131n oldu\u011fu yerde yeniden in\u015fa edilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u015fa\u011f\u0131da belirtilerin tabloda kontrol edilmesi faydal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\nBelirti<\/strong><\/td>Yeniden yap\u0131land\u0131rma \u015fans\u0131<\/strong><\/td>Endi\u015fe verici sinyal<\/strong><\/td><\/tr>Ger\u00e7e\u011fin kabul\u00fc<\/td> Davran\u0131\u015f do\u011frudan adland\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f<\/td> \u0130nkar, kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k, ka\u00e7\u0131nma var<\/td><\/tr> Ac\u0131ya kar\u015f\u0131 tutum<\/td> Empati ve dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k var<\/td> K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k ve so\u011fukluk var<\/td><\/tr> Yeni kurallar<\/td> Tart\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131p uygulan\u0131yor<\/td> Sabote ediliyorlar<\/td><\/tr> Taraf d\u0131\u015f\u0131 temas<\/td> Sonlanm\u0131\u015f<\/td> Devam ediyor<\/td><\/tr> Birlik \u00fczerinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma<\/td> Her iki taraf da dahil<\/td> \u00c7abay\u0131 bir ki\u015fi ta\u015f\u0131yor<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\nNedenleri de dikkate almak faydal\u0131 olabilir. Bazen aldatma, uzun s\u00fcreli bir krizin sonucu, konu\u015fmalardan ka\u00e7\u0131nma, olgunla\u015fmam\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, kendi \u00f6nemini do\u011frulama al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n sonucu olabilir. Bazen aldatma, aldatman\u0131n karaktere yerle\u015fmi\u015f oldu\u011fu s\u00fcrekli bir ya\u015fam tarz\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterir. Fark b\u00fcy\u00fck. \u0130lk durumda bir \u015fans vard\u0131r. \u0130kinci durumda, ili\u015fkiler genellikle sadece bir taraf\u0131n i\u00e7 ac\u0131dan daha b\u00fcy\u00fck de\u011fi\u015fiklik korkusu y\u00fcz\u00fcnden s\u00fcrer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/momslab.app\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/husband-wife-having-fight-indoors.jpg\")
<\/figure>\n\n\n\nKarar verirken nelere dikkat edilmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nKararlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n tavsiyelerine de\u011fil, ger\u00e7ekli\u011fin g\u00f6zlemlerine dayand\u0131rmak daha iyidir. \u00d6nemli olan sadece ne oldu\u011fu de\u011fil, sonras\u0131nda ne olaca\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Krizin a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u015famada, partnerin sonu\u00e7lara katlanabilme yetene\u011fi, zarar\u0131 kabul etme, davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirme, anla\u015fmalara sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterme ve g\u00fcveni eylemlerle yeniden kazanma becerisi g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Burada birka\u00e7 destek yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Kendi de\u011ferinizi ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131ndan ay\u0131rman\u0131z gerekir.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Bir evlili\u011fin her ko\u015fulda s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclmesi gerekti\u011fi fikrinden vazge\u00e7mek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Sadece net s\u0131n\u0131rlar \u00e7izildi\u011finde birlikte ya\u015famaya devam edilebilece\u011fini kabul etmek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- D\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn m\u00fc artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yoksa sadece yorgunlu\u011fun mu b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6rmek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
B\u00f6yle bir d\u00f6nemde e\u015f genellikle iki korku aras\u0131nda bocalar. Bir yandan, tek ba\u015f\u0131na kalmak ve yeni bir sayfa a\u00e7mak korkutucu olabilir. Ayn\u0131 zamanda, yeniden inanmak ve sonra tekrar hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framak da korku verir. E\u015f de genellikle kendi kriziyle bo\u011fu\u015fur, ancak bu sorumlulu\u011fu ortadan kald\u0131rmaz. Yaray\u0131 a\u00e7an ki\u015fi, rahats\u0131zl\u0131ktan \u015fikayet etmek yerine d\u00fczenin yeniden sa\u011flanmas\u0131na kat\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7ocuklar\u0131 unutmamak da \u00f6nemli. E\u011fer evde \u00e7ocuk varsa, bir ebeveynin di\u011ferini k\u00f6t\u00fc g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi bir sahneye ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 yoktur. Onlara \u00e7er\u00e7eveyi koruyan, onlar\u0131 yarg\u0131\u00e7 yapmayan, bir taraf se\u00e7meye zorlamayan bir yeti\u015fkin gereklidir. Ailede kriz nas\u0131l ya\u015fan\u0131rsa, bu sadece mevcut ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imini de\u011fil, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n gelecekteki yak\u0131nl\u0131k, sayg\u0131 ve g\u00fcven anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 da etkiler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u011fr\u0131y\u0131 uzatan hatalar<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n\u0130li\u015fkiler genellikle, a\u00e7\u0131k gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen ama ger\u00e7ekte yaray\u0131 daha da derinle\u015ftiren tekrarlayan ad\u0131mlar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden duraksar. Bunlar\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca erken fark etmek \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Konuyu tek bir konu\u015fmada kapatma giri\u015fimi.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u201c\u00c7ocuklar i\u00e7in katlanmak gerekiyor\u201d \u015feklinde kendinize bask\u0131 yapmak.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Yeni bir bilgi olmadan sonsuz sorgu.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u0130\u00e7ten i\u00e7e biriken k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131kla sessiz kalma.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- D\u00fcr\u00fcst anla\u015fmalar yerine takip etme.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- G\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrde huzuru sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in eski yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa erken d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Daha az fark edilen tuzaklar da var. Bazen e\u015f haftalarca kendini \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bir tarafla k\u0131yaslar ve bu, sadece kendisini utanca daha derine iter. Bazen e\u015f, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan her \u015feyin sakin g\u00f6r\u00fcnmesini ister, oysa \u00e7iftin i\u00e7inde hi\u00e7bir \u015fey d\u00fczeltilmemi\u015ftir. Bazen zarar g\u00f6ren taraf ‘zaman her \u015feyi iyile\u015ftirir’ fikrine tutunur ve zaman\u0131n kendi ba\u015f\u0131na ac\u0131n\u0131n yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmedi\u011fini fark etmez. Zaman, yaln\u0131zca duygular, s\u0131n\u0131rlar, al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar ve ger\u00e7eklikle ger\u00e7ek bir \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Resmi olarak birli\u011fin korundu\u011fu, ancak sayg\u0131, s\u0131cakl\u0131k, g\u00fcvenlik, konu\u015fma iste\u011fi gibi unsurlar\u0131n ortadan kalkt\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumlar da olabilir. D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan birlik var, ancak i\u00e7ten her \u015fey \u00e7oktan da\u011f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f. B\u00f6yle bir noktada kendini g\u00fczel etiketlerle kand\u0131rmamak \u00f6nemlidir. Ayn\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131 alt\u0131nda ya\u015famak ve bir birlik i\u00e7inde olmak ayn\u0131 \u015fey de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psikolog Ne Zaman Dahil Edilmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nBir uzman\u0131n deste\u011fi sadece bo\u015fanman\u0131n e\u015fi\u011finde olanlar i\u00e7in gerekmez. G\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131n \u00fcstesinden gelmekte, uyumakta, yemek yemek, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak veya ihanet d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bir \u015fey d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmekte zorlanan herkes i\u00e7in gereklidir. Haftalarca s\u00fcren kayg\u0131 azalm\u0131yorsa, v\u00fccut s\u00fcrekli bir gerginlik i\u00e7inde ya\u015f\u0131yorsa, tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 kontroller durmuyorsa, i\u00e7eride sadece \u00f6fke, bo\u015fluk ya da sersemlik varsa, bir psikolo\u011fun yard\u0131m\u0131 faydal\u0131 ve yerindedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130yi bir psikolog, e\u015fin \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in katlanmak zorunda oldu\u011funu veya e\u015fin evlilik ad\u0131na hemen affedilmesi gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6ylemez. Onun g\u00f6revi ba\u015fkad\u0131r: dayanak kazand\u0131rmak, duygusal g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcy\u00fc azaltmak, ger\u00e7ekleri g\u00f6rmeye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak, tekrarlayan modelleri fark etmek, nedenleri anlamak, \u00e7iftin kaynaklar\u0131n\u0131 ve her birinin ki\u015fisel s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011ferlendirmektir. Bazen \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar bireysel olarak y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fcl\u00fcr. Bazen her iki taraf da gelir. Bazen ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta daha fazla zarar g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f olan i\u00e7in ayr\u0131 bir a\u015fama gerekebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi, bunu tamamen kabul etmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 merak ediyor. Evrensel bir yan\u0131t yoktur. Baz\u0131 \u00e7iftler ger\u00e7ekten krizi atlat\u0131p daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst bir \u015fekilde \u00e7\u0131karlar. Di\u011ferleri yanlar\u0131nda kalman\u0131n kendilerini yok etmeden m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlar. \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcler ise iki karar aras\u0131nda aylarca s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kal\u0131rlar. Bu durumlar\u0131n hepsi ger\u00e7ektir. \u00d6nemli olan, kendinizi acele ettirmemek ve korkuyu netlik ile kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmamakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u015finizin aldatmas\u0131n\u0131 affetmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr, e\u011fer yan\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekler, \u00e7ifte ya\u015fam\u0131n sona erdirilmesi, ac\u0131ya sayg\u0131, yeni kurallar ve uzun bir g\u00fcvenin yeniden in\u015fas\u0131 i\u00e7in sab\u0131r varsa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u011fer yalan, sisli durumlar, bask\u0131, gizlilik ve sessizlik talebi tekrar ortaya \u00e7\u0131karsa, hayat s\u00fcrekli bir i\u00e7 gerilime d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. O zaman \u00f6nemli olan g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcy\u00fc kurtarmak de\u011fil, kendinizi kurtarmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sonu\u00e7 basit. Kocan\u0131n ihanetini, do\u011fru bir evlilik fikri i\u00e7in de\u011fil, i\u00e7 \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc geri kazanmak i\u00e7in affedebilirsin. Bazen bu yol ili\u015fkileri korumaya yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Bazen de huzurlu bir ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011fa g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her iki durumda da ama\u00e7 ayn\u0131d\u0131r: kendine destek bulmak, travma modunda de\u011fil de se\u00e7im yapma modunda yeniden var olmaya ba\u015flamak; kad\u0131n\u0131n ger\u00e7e\u011fi g\u00f6rmesi, erke\u011fin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan sorumlu olmas\u0131, bireyin kendine sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermesi, ili\u015fkinin yalan \u00fczerine kurulmamas\u0131 ve zaman\u0131n ac\u0131y\u0131 hafifletmek yerine iyile\u015ftirme y\u00f6n\u00fcnde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sorular ve Cevaplar<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nA\u015fa\u011f\u0131da, durumu hayalden uzak g\u00f6rmeye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olan s\u0131k\u00e7a sorulan sorular yer almaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u011fr\u0131 h\u0131zl\u0131 ge\u00e7mezse ihaneti kabul etmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nEvet, m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Kabul genellikle hemen sa\u011flanamaz. Acele etmektense, ger\u00e7eklerle, beden reaksiyonlar\u0131yla, s\u0131n\u0131rlarla ve se\u00e7im anlam\u0131yla d\u00fcr\u00fcst \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. \u0130hanet tekrarlan\u0131rsa affetmek daha zordur. \u0130hanet kabul edilip sonland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131rsa affetmek daha ger\u00e7ek\u00e7idir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130li\u015fkileri tutmak mant\u0131kl\u0131 oldu\u011funda ve ne zaman b\u0131rakman\u0131n gerekti\u011fi konusnda ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmelidir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u0130li\u015fki, sadece korkuya dayanm\u0131yorsa korunmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130li\u015fkiler ger\u00e7e\u011fe dayanabiliyorsa ve krizden sonra daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst hale geliyorsa yeniden in\u015fa edilebilir. E\u011fer ili\u015fkiler yeni yalanlarla besleniyorsa, kopmaktan daha fazla zarar verir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u015finizin bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l de\u011ferlendirmelisiniz?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nKocan\u0131z\u0131n s\u00f6zlerine de\u011fil, eylemlerine bakmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Kocan\u0131z\u0131n do\u011frudan yan\u0131t verecek cesareti varsa, ac\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcsleyebiliyorsa ve taahh\u00fctleri yerine getirebiliyorsa, \u015fans daha y\u00fcksektir. E\u011fer tekrar s\u0131rlar, bask\u0131 ve konudan ka\u00e7ma varsa g\u00fcven geri gelmez. Bu a\u015famada kocan\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 \u00f6nceki yeminlerden daha \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u00e7sel destek ve dengeyi geri kazanmak i\u00e7in ne yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nKendi \u00fczerine basit bir odaklanma yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Uyku, yemek, g\u00fcnl\u00fck ritim, y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fc\u015f, sessizlik, destek, terapi gerekli. Hayat\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck dilimlerle ya\u015famak, bir seferde t\u00fcm hayat\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktan daha kolayd\u0131r. Bazen hayat yava\u015f\u00e7a yeniden in\u015fa edilir. Bazen hayat aniden de\u011fi\u015fir. Her iki durumda da, se\u00e7imleriniz ger\u00e7ekler \u00fczerine kurulu oldu\u011funda hayat\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek daha kolayd\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yan\u0131n\u0131zda olgun bir partner oldu\u011funu nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nOlgun bir partner bo\u015f s\u00f6zlerin arkas\u0131na saklanmaz. Olgun bir partner, zarar g\u00f6ren taraf\u0131 kendi zay\u0131fl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla su\u00e7lamaz. Olgun bir partner zarar\u0131 kabul eder. Olgun bir partner g\u00fcvencenin de\u011ferini anlar. Olgun bir partner sonu\u00e7lara katlanmaya haz\u0131rd\u0131r. B\u00f6yle bir e\u015f mucizeler vaat etmez, yerine anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r ad\u0131mlar atar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Neden tek bir olaya geri d\u00f6nmeyi b\u0131rakmak bu kadar zor?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nBu, darbeden sonra zihnin nas\u0131l \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klar. Zihin kontrol\u00fc geri kazanmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Ma\u011fdur taraf durumu toparlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Anlam arar. Aldatman\u0131n nerede ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmek \u00f6nemlidir. Birli\u011fin bir temeli olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamak \u00f6nemlidir. S\u0131k s\u0131k zihin, olay\u0131n tamamlanmas\u0131n\u0131 arad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelere tekrar tekrar d\u00f6ner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Evde \u00e7ocuk varsa neyi dikkate almak \u00f6nemlidir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u00c7ocuklar yan\u0131n\u0131zdayken, yeti\u015fkinlerin \u00f6zel bir disipline ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n bulundu\u011fu bir konu\u015fma bile fazlad\u0131r. Ama bazen sakin bir ak\u015fam, on g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcl\u00fc sahneden daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 verebilir. \u00c7ocuk i\u00e7in ailede g\u00fcvenlik ve \u00f6nceden tahmin edilebilirlik \u00f6nemlidir. Ev, yak\u0131nl\u0131k i\u00e7in ilk modeli olu\u015fturur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gelecek hafta ne yapmal\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nBir sonraki a\u015famada \u00fc\u00e7 durumu de\u011ferlendirmek faydal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130lki ger\u00e7e\u011fin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterir. \u0130kincisi, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 hareketi g\u00f6sterir. \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcs\u00fc, ac\u0131 ile a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131k aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fkiyi g\u00f6sterir. E\u011fer konu\u015fma daha fazla belirsizlik getiriyorsa, d\u00fczen yerine, sonu\u00e7 zaten g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne zaman kalmal\u0131, ne zaman gitmeli?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nKarar herkes ad\u0131na al\u0131namaz. Ancak bir k\u0131lavuz var. E\u011fer ikinci partner hasar\u0131 kabul ediyorsa, yeni yalanlara sapm\u0131yorsa ve ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak istiyorsa, bir \u015fans vard\u0131r. E\u011fer ikinci partner \u00f6nemli olan\u0131 yine sakl\u0131yorsa ve beraberlik sadece korkudan ibaretse, gitmek bazen daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ger\u00e7ek iyile\u015fme ne g\u00f6steriyor<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\nBazen kad\u0131n, ihaneti unutmadan affetmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Bazen kad\u0131n, e\u011fer erkek yeniden yalan s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorsa kocas\u0131n\u0131 affedip edemeyece\u011fini sorar. Bazen kad\u0131n, ihaneti silemeyece\u011fini anlar, ancak yine de affetmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funu kabul eder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u011fer bir erkek kalmaya niyetliyse, bunu kelimelerle de\u011fil, eylemlerle g\u00f6stermelidir. E\u011fer erkek ili\u015fkiyi yeniden kurmak istiyorsa kurallar\u0131 kabul eder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Partner ac\u0131y\u0131 tolere ederken, kad\u0131n vaat de\u011fil, bir ger\u00e7e\u011fi g\u00f6r\u00fcr. O zaman ki\u015fi sadece katlanmak yerine ya\u015famaya devam etme \u015fans\u0131 elde eder. Bir ki\u015fi g\u00fcveni k\u0131rabilir, ancak ba\u015fka bir ki\u015fi iyile\u015fmeyi destekleyebilir. Ki\u015fi, yaras\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst\u00e7e g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde kendisi de de\u011fi\u015fir. B\u00f6yle i\u015fte, ili\u015fkiler dekorasyon olmay\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131r. Birlik anlam kazan\u0131r. Aile ger\u00e7ek \u00fczerine kurulur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kad\u0131n ihaneti net bir \u015fekilde g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Ki\u015fi, ihaneti mazeretsiz bir \u015fekilde adland\u0131r\u0131r. Ba\u015fka bir yol daha m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr: \u0130hanet kabul edilebilir ve saklamaktan vazge\u00e7ilir. Evet, ili\u015fkiler do\u011fruluk gerektirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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\u0130\u00e7erik Yak\u0131n birinin ihaneti g\u00fcveni, al\u0131\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f d\u00fczeni, evin g\u00fcvenli bir yer olarak alg\u0131lanmas\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131kar. Bu materyal, darbeyi a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanmadan nas\u0131l atlataca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, ili\u015fkileri nas\u0131l tarafs\u0131z de\u011ferlendirece\u011finizi, kocan\u0131z\u0131n…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":15,"featured_media":14495,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_yoast_wpseo_title":"Kocan\u0131n Aldatmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00dcstesinden Gelmek ve Karar Vermek","_yoast_wpseo_metadesc":"Kocan\u0131z\u0131n aldatmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcstesinden nas\u0131l gelinir, deste\u011fi nas\u0131l yeniden kurars\u0131n\u0131z, ili\u015fkinizi kurtarma imkan\u0131 olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z ve ne zaman bir psikolo\u011fa ba\u015fvurmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.","_yoast_wpseo_meta-robots-noindex":"","_yoast_wpseo_meta-robots-nofollow":"","_yoast_wpseo_canonical":"","_momslab_schema_type":"","footnotes":"","tstyn_error":""},"categories":[745],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14871","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yararli-ipuclari-tr"],"yoast_head":"\n
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Kabul etmek, h\u0131zl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde bar\u0131\u015fmak anlam\u0131na gelmez. S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 kald\u0131rmak anlam\u0131na da gelmez. Ac\u0131 yokmu\u015f gibi davranmak anlam\u0131na gelmez. Bu konudaki ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama, ihanetin t\u00fcm i\u00e7sel alan\u0131n merkezi oldu\u011fu travmatik d\u00f6ng\u00fcden yava\u015f yava\u015f \u00e7\u0131kmak demektir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
B\u00f6yle bir yol her zaman zaman al\u0131r. Burada h\u0131zl\u0131 olan yaln\u0131zca d\u00fcrt\u00fclerdir. Derinlemesine i\u015fleme, g\u00fc\u00e7, sessizlik, d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck ve ger\u00e7ekleri g\u00f6zlemlemeyi gerektirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130lk g\u00fcnlerde ne yap\u0131lmal\u0131<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nKritik anda zihin an\u0131nda bir yan\u0131t talep eder. Kimi ki\u015filer o ak\u015fam partnerini evden kovmak ister. Kimileri ise konuyu kapat\u0131p eski ya\u015famlar\u0131na tutunmak ister. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her iki u\u00e7 da tehlikelidir. \u00d6ncelikle gerilimi azaltmak, temel istikrar\u0131 geri getirmek ve \u015fokun zirvesindeyken kaderi belirleyecek bir se\u00e7im yapmamak gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Basit ad\u0131mlar atmakla ba\u015flamak faydal\u0131d\u0131r. Normal bir yemek yemek. V\u00fccuda en az\u0131ndan k\u0131sa aral\u0131klarla uyku vermek. Sonsuz mesaj okumay\u0131 durdurmak. Gece vakti \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bir \u015fahs\u0131 aramamak. Arkada\u015flar\u0131 24 saat \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir merkeze \u00e7evirmemek. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Evde \u00e7ocuklar varken, yeti\u015fkinin g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam\u0131n ritmini s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmesi gerekir: yemek, yolculuk, okul, g\u00fcnl\u00fck k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck i\u015fler. \u00c7ocuk krizi s\u00f6zlerden \u00f6nce fark eder, bu y\u00fczden sakin bir d\u00fczen a\u011f\u0131r konu\u015fma kadar \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130lk g\u00fcn kendinize \u00fc\u00e7 soruya cevap vermek faydal\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Birinci: \u015eimdilik nihai bir karar vermeyebilirsiniz. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u0130kinci: Sadece hayal ve korkulara de\u011fil, ger\u00e7eklere bakacak i\u00e7sel bir kaynak var m\u0131. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc: \u0130\u00e7indeki \u00f6fke kaynasa bile, e\u015f diyalog \u015fans\u0131n\u0131 korumak istiyor mu. <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Kesin cevap hemen gelmez, ancak b\u00f6yle bir ara, birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn i\u00e7inde daha net de\u011ferlendirilebilecek \u015feyleri y\u0131kmaktan al\u0131koyar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00d6nemli! E\u011fer \u00e7evrede tehditler, bask\u0131, para veya \u00e7ocuklarla \u015fantaj veya fiziksel sald\u0131r\u0131 riski varsa, gelecekle ilgili konu\u015fmalar g\u00fcvenli\u011fin sa\u011flanaca\u011f\u0131 zamana kadar ertelenir.<\/h3>\n\n\n\nKendini yok etmeden konu\u015fmay\u0131 nas\u0131l ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nKonu\u015fma, bir sahne yaratmak i\u00e7in de\u011fil, netlik sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in gereklidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc netlik olmadan olanda bar\u0131\u015f\u0131k kalmak neredeyse imkans\u0131zd\u0131r, beyin bo\u015fluklara yap\u0131\u015f\u0131r ve en korkun\u00e7unu in\u015fa etmeye ba\u015flar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir sohbette sadece i\u00e7erik de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda tarz da \u00f6nemlidir. \u00d6nceden ne \u00f6\u011frenmek gerekti\u011fini, hangi bilgilerin temel oldu\u011funu ve bir sonraki ad\u0131m i\u00e7in hangi ko\u015fullar\u0131n gerekli oldu\u011funu belirlemek faydal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015eu \u015femaya g\u00f6re ilerlemek uygundur:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- \u015eu ana kadar \u00f6\u011frenilenleri k\u0131saca belirtin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Sald\u0131rmadan ve savunmadan konu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 isteyin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Kar\u015f\u0131 tarafla ileti\u015fimin kesildi\u011fi netle\u015ftirilsin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Art\u0131k hangi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n zorunlu oldu\u011funu belirleyin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Anla\u015fmalar\u0131n kontrol format\u0131n\u0131n kabul edilebilir oldu\u011funu tart\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Partner hatay\u0131 kabul etti\u011finde, konuyu e\u015fine kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7evirmedi\u011finde, do\u011frudan yan\u0131t verdi\u011finde, g\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00f6fkeyi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemedi\u011finde d\u00fcr\u00fcst \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma \u015fanslar\u0131 daha y\u00fcksektir. Partner sorular\u0131n var olmas\u0131na k\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, konuyu kapatmay\u0131 talep etti\u011finde, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 dramdan bahsetti\u011finde, partneri k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131kla su\u00e7lad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda iyile\u015fme \u00e7ok daha zor ilerler. Burada \u00f6nemli olan g\u00fczel vaatlere de\u011fil, tekrarlayan davran\u0131\u015flara bakmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Birlik halen ne zaman kurtar\u0131labilir<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nHer ihanet sonras\u0131 evlilik mahkum de\u011fildir. Bazen ili\u015fkileri yeniden bir araya getirmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr, ancak bu, her iki taraf\u0131n da ger\u00e7ek eylemlerini gerektirir. Biri unutmay\u0131 isteyip di\u011feri t\u00fcm ac\u0131y\u0131 tek ba\u015f\u0131na ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, denge geri gelmez. \u0130li\u015fkiler ancak zarar kabul edildi\u011finde, ili\u015fkinin taraf d\u0131\u015f\u0131 oldu\u011fu, kurallar\u0131n belirlendi\u011fi ve sonu\u00e7lar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda sabr\u0131n oldu\u011fu yerde yeniden in\u015fa edilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u015fa\u011f\u0131da belirtilerin tabloda kontrol edilmesi faydal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\nBelirti<\/strong><\/td>Yeniden yap\u0131land\u0131rma \u015fans\u0131<\/strong><\/td>Endi\u015fe verici sinyal<\/strong><\/td><\/tr>Ger\u00e7e\u011fin kabul\u00fc<\/td> Davran\u0131\u015f do\u011frudan adland\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f<\/td> \u0130nkar, kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k, ka\u00e7\u0131nma var<\/td><\/tr> Ac\u0131ya kar\u015f\u0131 tutum<\/td> Empati ve dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k var<\/td> K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k ve so\u011fukluk var<\/td><\/tr> Yeni kurallar<\/td> Tart\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131p uygulan\u0131yor<\/td> Sabote ediliyorlar<\/td><\/tr> Taraf d\u0131\u015f\u0131 temas<\/td> Sonlanm\u0131\u015f<\/td> Devam ediyor<\/td><\/tr> Birlik \u00fczerinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma<\/td> Her iki taraf da dahil<\/td> \u00c7abay\u0131 bir ki\u015fi ta\u015f\u0131yor<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\nNedenleri de dikkate almak faydal\u0131 olabilir. Bazen aldatma, uzun s\u00fcreli bir krizin sonucu, konu\u015fmalardan ka\u00e7\u0131nma, olgunla\u015fmam\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, kendi \u00f6nemini do\u011frulama al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n sonucu olabilir. Bazen aldatma, aldatman\u0131n karaktere yerle\u015fmi\u015f oldu\u011fu s\u00fcrekli bir ya\u015fam tarz\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterir. Fark b\u00fcy\u00fck. \u0130lk durumda bir \u015fans vard\u0131r. \u0130kinci durumda, ili\u015fkiler genellikle sadece bir taraf\u0131n i\u00e7 ac\u0131dan daha b\u00fcy\u00fck de\u011fi\u015fiklik korkusu y\u00fcz\u00fcnden s\u00fcrer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\nKarar verirken nelere dikkat edilmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nKararlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n tavsiyelerine de\u011fil, ger\u00e7ekli\u011fin g\u00f6zlemlerine dayand\u0131rmak daha iyidir. \u00d6nemli olan sadece ne oldu\u011fu de\u011fil, sonras\u0131nda ne olaca\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Krizin a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u015famada, partnerin sonu\u00e7lara katlanabilme yetene\u011fi, zarar\u0131 kabul etme, davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirme, anla\u015fmalara sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterme ve g\u00fcveni eylemlerle yeniden kazanma becerisi g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Burada birka\u00e7 destek yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Kendi de\u011ferinizi ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131ndan ay\u0131rman\u0131z gerekir.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Bir evlili\u011fin her ko\u015fulda s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclmesi gerekti\u011fi fikrinden vazge\u00e7mek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Sadece net s\u0131n\u0131rlar \u00e7izildi\u011finde birlikte ya\u015famaya devam edilebilece\u011fini kabul etmek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- D\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn m\u00fc artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yoksa sadece yorgunlu\u011fun mu b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6rmek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
B\u00f6yle bir d\u00f6nemde e\u015f genellikle iki korku aras\u0131nda bocalar. Bir yandan, tek ba\u015f\u0131na kalmak ve yeni bir sayfa a\u00e7mak korkutucu olabilir. Ayn\u0131 zamanda, yeniden inanmak ve sonra tekrar hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framak da korku verir. E\u015f de genellikle kendi kriziyle bo\u011fu\u015fur, ancak bu sorumlulu\u011fu ortadan kald\u0131rmaz. Yaray\u0131 a\u00e7an ki\u015fi, rahats\u0131zl\u0131ktan \u015fikayet etmek yerine d\u00fczenin yeniden sa\u011flanmas\u0131na kat\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7ocuklar\u0131 unutmamak da \u00f6nemli. E\u011fer evde \u00e7ocuk varsa, bir ebeveynin di\u011ferini k\u00f6t\u00fc g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi bir sahneye ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 yoktur. Onlara \u00e7er\u00e7eveyi koruyan, onlar\u0131 yarg\u0131\u00e7 yapmayan, bir taraf se\u00e7meye zorlamayan bir yeti\u015fkin gereklidir. Ailede kriz nas\u0131l ya\u015fan\u0131rsa, bu sadece mevcut ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imini de\u011fil, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n gelecekteki yak\u0131nl\u0131k, sayg\u0131 ve g\u00fcven anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 da etkiler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u011fr\u0131y\u0131 uzatan hatalar<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n\u0130li\u015fkiler genellikle, a\u00e7\u0131k gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen ama ger\u00e7ekte yaray\u0131 daha da derinle\u015ftiren tekrarlayan ad\u0131mlar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden duraksar. Bunlar\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca erken fark etmek \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Konuyu tek bir konu\u015fmada kapatma giri\u015fimi.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u201c\u00c7ocuklar i\u00e7in katlanmak gerekiyor\u201d \u015feklinde kendinize bask\u0131 yapmak.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Yeni bir bilgi olmadan sonsuz sorgu.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u0130\u00e7ten i\u00e7e biriken k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131kla sessiz kalma.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- D\u00fcr\u00fcst anla\u015fmalar yerine takip etme.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- G\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrde huzuru sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in eski yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa erken d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Daha az fark edilen tuzaklar da var. Bazen e\u015f haftalarca kendini \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bir tarafla k\u0131yaslar ve bu, sadece kendisini utanca daha derine iter. Bazen e\u015f, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan her \u015feyin sakin g\u00f6r\u00fcnmesini ister, oysa \u00e7iftin i\u00e7inde hi\u00e7bir \u015fey d\u00fczeltilmemi\u015ftir. Bazen zarar g\u00f6ren taraf ‘zaman her \u015feyi iyile\u015ftirir’ fikrine tutunur ve zaman\u0131n kendi ba\u015f\u0131na ac\u0131n\u0131n yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmedi\u011fini fark etmez. Zaman, yaln\u0131zca duygular, s\u0131n\u0131rlar, al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar ve ger\u00e7eklikle ger\u00e7ek bir \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Resmi olarak birli\u011fin korundu\u011fu, ancak sayg\u0131, s\u0131cakl\u0131k, g\u00fcvenlik, konu\u015fma iste\u011fi gibi unsurlar\u0131n ortadan kalkt\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumlar da olabilir. D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan birlik var, ancak i\u00e7ten her \u015fey \u00e7oktan da\u011f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f. B\u00f6yle bir noktada kendini g\u00fczel etiketlerle kand\u0131rmamak \u00f6nemlidir. Ayn\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131 alt\u0131nda ya\u015famak ve bir birlik i\u00e7inde olmak ayn\u0131 \u015fey de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psikolog Ne Zaman Dahil Edilmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nBir uzman\u0131n deste\u011fi sadece bo\u015fanman\u0131n e\u015fi\u011finde olanlar i\u00e7in gerekmez. G\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131n \u00fcstesinden gelmekte, uyumakta, yemek yemek, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak veya ihanet d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bir \u015fey d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmekte zorlanan herkes i\u00e7in gereklidir. Haftalarca s\u00fcren kayg\u0131 azalm\u0131yorsa, v\u00fccut s\u00fcrekli bir gerginlik i\u00e7inde ya\u015f\u0131yorsa, tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 kontroller durmuyorsa, i\u00e7eride sadece \u00f6fke, bo\u015fluk ya da sersemlik varsa, bir psikolo\u011fun yard\u0131m\u0131 faydal\u0131 ve yerindedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130yi bir psikolog, e\u015fin \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in katlanmak zorunda oldu\u011funu veya e\u015fin evlilik ad\u0131na hemen affedilmesi gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6ylemez. Onun g\u00f6revi ba\u015fkad\u0131r: dayanak kazand\u0131rmak, duygusal g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcy\u00fc azaltmak, ger\u00e7ekleri g\u00f6rmeye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak, tekrarlayan modelleri fark etmek, nedenleri anlamak, \u00e7iftin kaynaklar\u0131n\u0131 ve her birinin ki\u015fisel s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011ferlendirmektir. Bazen \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar bireysel olarak y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fcl\u00fcr. Bazen her iki taraf da gelir. Bazen ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta daha fazla zarar g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f olan i\u00e7in ayr\u0131 bir a\u015fama gerekebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi, bunu tamamen kabul etmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 merak ediyor. Evrensel bir yan\u0131t yoktur. Baz\u0131 \u00e7iftler ger\u00e7ekten krizi atlat\u0131p daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst bir \u015fekilde \u00e7\u0131karlar. Di\u011ferleri yanlar\u0131nda kalman\u0131n kendilerini yok etmeden m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlar. \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcler ise iki karar aras\u0131nda aylarca s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kal\u0131rlar. Bu durumlar\u0131n hepsi ger\u00e7ektir. \u00d6nemli olan, kendinizi acele ettirmemek ve korkuyu netlik ile kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmamakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u015finizin aldatmas\u0131n\u0131 affetmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr, e\u011fer yan\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekler, \u00e7ifte ya\u015fam\u0131n sona erdirilmesi, ac\u0131ya sayg\u0131, yeni kurallar ve uzun bir g\u00fcvenin yeniden in\u015fas\u0131 i\u00e7in sab\u0131r varsa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u011fer yalan, sisli durumlar, bask\u0131, gizlilik ve sessizlik talebi tekrar ortaya \u00e7\u0131karsa, hayat s\u00fcrekli bir i\u00e7 gerilime d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. O zaman \u00f6nemli olan g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcy\u00fc kurtarmak de\u011fil, kendinizi kurtarmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sonu\u00e7 basit. Kocan\u0131n ihanetini, do\u011fru bir evlilik fikri i\u00e7in de\u011fil, i\u00e7 \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc geri kazanmak i\u00e7in affedebilirsin. Bazen bu yol ili\u015fkileri korumaya yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Bazen de huzurlu bir ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011fa g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her iki durumda da ama\u00e7 ayn\u0131d\u0131r: kendine destek bulmak, travma modunda de\u011fil de se\u00e7im yapma modunda yeniden var olmaya ba\u015flamak; kad\u0131n\u0131n ger\u00e7e\u011fi g\u00f6rmesi, erke\u011fin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan sorumlu olmas\u0131, bireyin kendine sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermesi, ili\u015fkinin yalan \u00fczerine kurulmamas\u0131 ve zaman\u0131n ac\u0131y\u0131 hafifletmek yerine iyile\u015ftirme y\u00f6n\u00fcnde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sorular ve Cevaplar<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nA\u015fa\u011f\u0131da, durumu hayalden uzak g\u00f6rmeye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olan s\u0131k\u00e7a sorulan sorular yer almaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u011fr\u0131 h\u0131zl\u0131 ge\u00e7mezse ihaneti kabul etmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nEvet, m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Kabul genellikle hemen sa\u011flanamaz. Acele etmektense, ger\u00e7eklerle, beden reaksiyonlar\u0131yla, s\u0131n\u0131rlarla ve se\u00e7im anlam\u0131yla d\u00fcr\u00fcst \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. \u0130hanet tekrarlan\u0131rsa affetmek daha zordur. \u0130hanet kabul edilip sonland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131rsa affetmek daha ger\u00e7ek\u00e7idir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130li\u015fkileri tutmak mant\u0131kl\u0131 oldu\u011funda ve ne zaman b\u0131rakman\u0131n gerekti\u011fi konusnda ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmelidir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u0130li\u015fki, sadece korkuya dayanm\u0131yorsa korunmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130li\u015fkiler ger\u00e7e\u011fe dayanabiliyorsa ve krizden sonra daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst hale geliyorsa yeniden in\u015fa edilebilir. E\u011fer ili\u015fkiler yeni yalanlarla besleniyorsa, kopmaktan daha fazla zarar verir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u015finizin bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l de\u011ferlendirmelisiniz?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nKocan\u0131z\u0131n s\u00f6zlerine de\u011fil, eylemlerine bakmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Kocan\u0131z\u0131n do\u011frudan yan\u0131t verecek cesareti varsa, ac\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcsleyebiliyorsa ve taahh\u00fctleri yerine getirebiliyorsa, \u015fans daha y\u00fcksektir. E\u011fer tekrar s\u0131rlar, bask\u0131 ve konudan ka\u00e7ma varsa g\u00fcven geri gelmez. Bu a\u015famada kocan\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 \u00f6nceki yeminlerden daha \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u00e7sel destek ve dengeyi geri kazanmak i\u00e7in ne yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nKendi \u00fczerine basit bir odaklanma yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Uyku, yemek, g\u00fcnl\u00fck ritim, y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fc\u015f, sessizlik, destek, terapi gerekli. Hayat\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck dilimlerle ya\u015famak, bir seferde t\u00fcm hayat\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktan daha kolayd\u0131r. Bazen hayat yava\u015f\u00e7a yeniden in\u015fa edilir. Bazen hayat aniden de\u011fi\u015fir. Her iki durumda da, se\u00e7imleriniz ger\u00e7ekler \u00fczerine kurulu oldu\u011funda hayat\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek daha kolayd\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yan\u0131n\u0131zda olgun bir partner oldu\u011funu nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nOlgun bir partner bo\u015f s\u00f6zlerin arkas\u0131na saklanmaz. Olgun bir partner, zarar g\u00f6ren taraf\u0131 kendi zay\u0131fl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla su\u00e7lamaz. Olgun bir partner zarar\u0131 kabul eder. Olgun bir partner g\u00fcvencenin de\u011ferini anlar. Olgun bir partner sonu\u00e7lara katlanmaya haz\u0131rd\u0131r. B\u00f6yle bir e\u015f mucizeler vaat etmez, yerine anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r ad\u0131mlar atar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Neden tek bir olaya geri d\u00f6nmeyi b\u0131rakmak bu kadar zor?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nBu, darbeden sonra zihnin nas\u0131l \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klar. Zihin kontrol\u00fc geri kazanmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Ma\u011fdur taraf durumu toparlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Anlam arar. Aldatman\u0131n nerede ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmek \u00f6nemlidir. Birli\u011fin bir temeli olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamak \u00f6nemlidir. S\u0131k s\u0131k zihin, olay\u0131n tamamlanmas\u0131n\u0131 arad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelere tekrar tekrar d\u00f6ner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Evde \u00e7ocuk varsa neyi dikkate almak \u00f6nemlidir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u00c7ocuklar yan\u0131n\u0131zdayken, yeti\u015fkinlerin \u00f6zel bir disipline ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n bulundu\u011fu bir konu\u015fma bile fazlad\u0131r. Ama bazen sakin bir ak\u015fam, on g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcl\u00fc sahneden daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 verebilir. \u00c7ocuk i\u00e7in ailede g\u00fcvenlik ve \u00f6nceden tahmin edilebilirlik \u00f6nemlidir. Ev, yak\u0131nl\u0131k i\u00e7in ilk modeli olu\u015fturur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gelecek hafta ne yapmal\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nBir sonraki a\u015famada \u00fc\u00e7 durumu de\u011ferlendirmek faydal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130lki ger\u00e7e\u011fin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterir. \u0130kincisi, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 hareketi g\u00f6sterir. \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcs\u00fc, ac\u0131 ile a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131k aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fkiyi g\u00f6sterir. E\u011fer konu\u015fma daha fazla belirsizlik getiriyorsa, d\u00fczen yerine, sonu\u00e7 zaten g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne zaman kalmal\u0131, ne zaman gitmeli?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nKarar herkes ad\u0131na al\u0131namaz. Ancak bir k\u0131lavuz var. E\u011fer ikinci partner hasar\u0131 kabul ediyorsa, yeni yalanlara sapm\u0131yorsa ve ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak istiyorsa, bir \u015fans vard\u0131r. E\u011fer ikinci partner \u00f6nemli olan\u0131 yine sakl\u0131yorsa ve beraberlik sadece korkudan ibaretse, gitmek bazen daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ger\u00e7ek iyile\u015fme ne g\u00f6steriyor<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\nBazen kad\u0131n, ihaneti unutmadan affetmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Bazen kad\u0131n, e\u011fer erkek yeniden yalan s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorsa kocas\u0131n\u0131 affedip edemeyece\u011fini sorar. Bazen kad\u0131n, ihaneti silemeyece\u011fini anlar, ancak yine de affetmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funu kabul eder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u011fer bir erkek kalmaya niyetliyse, bunu kelimelerle de\u011fil, eylemlerle g\u00f6stermelidir. E\u011fer erkek ili\u015fkiyi yeniden kurmak istiyorsa kurallar\u0131 kabul eder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Partner ac\u0131y\u0131 tolere ederken, kad\u0131n vaat de\u011fil, bir ger\u00e7e\u011fi g\u00f6r\u00fcr. O zaman ki\u015fi sadece katlanmak yerine ya\u015famaya devam etme \u015fans\u0131 elde eder. Bir ki\u015fi g\u00fcveni k\u0131rabilir, ancak ba\u015fka bir ki\u015fi iyile\u015fmeyi destekleyebilir. Ki\u015fi, yaras\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst\u00e7e g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde kendisi de de\u011fi\u015fir. B\u00f6yle i\u015fte, ili\u015fkiler dekorasyon olmay\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131r. Birlik anlam kazan\u0131r. Aile ger\u00e7ek \u00fczerine kurulur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kad\u0131n ihaneti net bir \u015fekilde g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Ki\u015fi, ihaneti mazeretsiz bir \u015fekilde adland\u0131r\u0131r. Ba\u015fka bir yol daha m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr: \u0130hanet kabul edilebilir ve saklamaktan vazge\u00e7ilir. Evet, ili\u015fkiler do\u011fruluk gerektirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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\u0130\u00e7erik Yak\u0131n birinin ihaneti g\u00fcveni, al\u0131\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f d\u00fczeni, evin g\u00fcvenli bir yer olarak alg\u0131lanmas\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131kar. Bu materyal, darbeyi a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanmadan nas\u0131l atlataca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, ili\u015fkileri nas\u0131l tarafs\u0131z de\u011ferlendirece\u011finizi, kocan\u0131z\u0131n…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":15,"featured_media":14495,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_yoast_wpseo_title":"Kocan\u0131n Aldatmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00dcstesinden Gelmek ve Karar Vermek","_yoast_wpseo_metadesc":"Kocan\u0131z\u0131n aldatmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcstesinden nas\u0131l gelinir, deste\u011fi nas\u0131l yeniden kurars\u0131n\u0131z, ili\u015fkinizi kurtarma imkan\u0131 olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z ve ne zaman bir psikolo\u011fa ba\u015fvurmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.","_yoast_wpseo_meta-robots-noindex":"","_yoast_wpseo_meta-robots-nofollow":"","_yoast_wpseo_canonical":"","_momslab_schema_type":"","footnotes":"","tstyn_error":""},"categories":[745],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14871","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yararli-ipuclari-tr"],"yoast_head":"\n
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Kesin cevap hemen gelmez, ancak b\u00f6yle bir ara, birka\u00e7 g\u00fcn i\u00e7inde daha net de\u011ferlendirilebilecek \u015feyleri y\u0131kmaktan al\u0131koyar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00d6nemli! E\u011fer \u00e7evrede tehditler, bask\u0131, para veya \u00e7ocuklarla \u015fantaj veya fiziksel sald\u0131r\u0131 riski varsa, gelecekle ilgili konu\u015fmalar g\u00fcvenli\u011fin sa\u011flanaca\u011f\u0131 zamana kadar ertelenir.<\/h3>\n\n\n\nKendini yok etmeden konu\u015fmay\u0131 nas\u0131l ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nKonu\u015fma, bir sahne yaratmak i\u00e7in de\u011fil, netlik sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in gereklidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc netlik olmadan olanda bar\u0131\u015f\u0131k kalmak neredeyse imkans\u0131zd\u0131r, beyin bo\u015fluklara yap\u0131\u015f\u0131r ve en korkun\u00e7unu in\u015fa etmeye ba\u015flar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir sohbette sadece i\u00e7erik de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda tarz da \u00f6nemlidir. \u00d6nceden ne \u00f6\u011frenmek gerekti\u011fini, hangi bilgilerin temel oldu\u011funu ve bir sonraki ad\u0131m i\u00e7in hangi ko\u015fullar\u0131n gerekli oldu\u011funu belirlemek faydal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015eu \u015femaya g\u00f6re ilerlemek uygundur:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- \u015eu ana kadar \u00f6\u011frenilenleri k\u0131saca belirtin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Sald\u0131rmadan ve savunmadan konu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 isteyin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Kar\u015f\u0131 tarafla ileti\u015fimin kesildi\u011fi netle\u015ftirilsin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Art\u0131k hangi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n zorunlu oldu\u011funu belirleyin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Anla\u015fmalar\u0131n kontrol format\u0131n\u0131n kabul edilebilir oldu\u011funu tart\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Partner hatay\u0131 kabul etti\u011finde, konuyu e\u015fine kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7evirmedi\u011finde, do\u011frudan yan\u0131t verdi\u011finde, g\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00f6fkeyi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemedi\u011finde d\u00fcr\u00fcst \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma \u015fanslar\u0131 daha y\u00fcksektir. Partner sorular\u0131n var olmas\u0131na k\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, konuyu kapatmay\u0131 talep etti\u011finde, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 dramdan bahsetti\u011finde, partneri k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131kla su\u00e7lad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda iyile\u015fme \u00e7ok daha zor ilerler. Burada \u00f6nemli olan g\u00fczel vaatlere de\u011fil, tekrarlayan davran\u0131\u015flara bakmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Birlik halen ne zaman kurtar\u0131labilir<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nHer ihanet sonras\u0131 evlilik mahkum de\u011fildir. Bazen ili\u015fkileri yeniden bir araya getirmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr, ancak bu, her iki taraf\u0131n da ger\u00e7ek eylemlerini gerektirir. Biri unutmay\u0131 isteyip di\u011feri t\u00fcm ac\u0131y\u0131 tek ba\u015f\u0131na ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, denge geri gelmez. \u0130li\u015fkiler ancak zarar kabul edildi\u011finde, ili\u015fkinin taraf d\u0131\u015f\u0131 oldu\u011fu, kurallar\u0131n belirlendi\u011fi ve sonu\u00e7lar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda sabr\u0131n oldu\u011fu yerde yeniden in\u015fa edilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u015fa\u011f\u0131da belirtilerin tabloda kontrol edilmesi faydal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\nBelirti<\/strong><\/td>Yeniden yap\u0131land\u0131rma \u015fans\u0131<\/strong><\/td>Endi\u015fe verici sinyal<\/strong><\/td><\/tr>Ger\u00e7e\u011fin kabul\u00fc<\/td> Davran\u0131\u015f do\u011frudan adland\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f<\/td> \u0130nkar, kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k, ka\u00e7\u0131nma var<\/td><\/tr> Ac\u0131ya kar\u015f\u0131 tutum<\/td> Empati ve dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k var<\/td> K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k ve so\u011fukluk var<\/td><\/tr> Yeni kurallar<\/td> Tart\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131p uygulan\u0131yor<\/td> Sabote ediliyorlar<\/td><\/tr> Taraf d\u0131\u015f\u0131 temas<\/td> Sonlanm\u0131\u015f<\/td> Devam ediyor<\/td><\/tr> Birlik \u00fczerinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma<\/td> Her iki taraf da dahil<\/td> \u00c7abay\u0131 bir ki\u015fi ta\u015f\u0131yor<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\nNedenleri de dikkate almak faydal\u0131 olabilir. Bazen aldatma, uzun s\u00fcreli bir krizin sonucu, konu\u015fmalardan ka\u00e7\u0131nma, olgunla\u015fmam\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, kendi \u00f6nemini do\u011frulama al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n sonucu olabilir. Bazen aldatma, aldatman\u0131n karaktere yerle\u015fmi\u015f oldu\u011fu s\u00fcrekli bir ya\u015fam tarz\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterir. Fark b\u00fcy\u00fck. \u0130lk durumda bir \u015fans vard\u0131r. \u0130kinci durumda, ili\u015fkiler genellikle sadece bir taraf\u0131n i\u00e7 ac\u0131dan daha b\u00fcy\u00fck de\u011fi\u015fiklik korkusu y\u00fcz\u00fcnden s\u00fcrer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\nKarar verirken nelere dikkat edilmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nKararlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n tavsiyelerine de\u011fil, ger\u00e7ekli\u011fin g\u00f6zlemlerine dayand\u0131rmak daha iyidir. \u00d6nemli olan sadece ne oldu\u011fu de\u011fil, sonras\u0131nda ne olaca\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Krizin a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u015famada, partnerin sonu\u00e7lara katlanabilme yetene\u011fi, zarar\u0131 kabul etme, davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirme, anla\u015fmalara sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterme ve g\u00fcveni eylemlerle yeniden kazanma becerisi g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Burada birka\u00e7 destek yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Kendi de\u011ferinizi ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131ndan ay\u0131rman\u0131z gerekir.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Bir evlili\u011fin her ko\u015fulda s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclmesi gerekti\u011fi fikrinden vazge\u00e7mek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Sadece net s\u0131n\u0131rlar \u00e7izildi\u011finde birlikte ya\u015famaya devam edilebilece\u011fini kabul etmek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- D\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn m\u00fc artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yoksa sadece yorgunlu\u011fun mu b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6rmek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
B\u00f6yle bir d\u00f6nemde e\u015f genellikle iki korku aras\u0131nda bocalar. Bir yandan, tek ba\u015f\u0131na kalmak ve yeni bir sayfa a\u00e7mak korkutucu olabilir. Ayn\u0131 zamanda, yeniden inanmak ve sonra tekrar hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framak da korku verir. E\u015f de genellikle kendi kriziyle bo\u011fu\u015fur, ancak bu sorumlulu\u011fu ortadan kald\u0131rmaz. Yaray\u0131 a\u00e7an ki\u015fi, rahats\u0131zl\u0131ktan \u015fikayet etmek yerine d\u00fczenin yeniden sa\u011flanmas\u0131na kat\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7ocuklar\u0131 unutmamak da \u00f6nemli. E\u011fer evde \u00e7ocuk varsa, bir ebeveynin di\u011ferini k\u00f6t\u00fc g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi bir sahneye ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 yoktur. Onlara \u00e7er\u00e7eveyi koruyan, onlar\u0131 yarg\u0131\u00e7 yapmayan, bir taraf se\u00e7meye zorlamayan bir yeti\u015fkin gereklidir. Ailede kriz nas\u0131l ya\u015fan\u0131rsa, bu sadece mevcut ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imini de\u011fil, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n gelecekteki yak\u0131nl\u0131k, sayg\u0131 ve g\u00fcven anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 da etkiler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u011fr\u0131y\u0131 uzatan hatalar<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n\u0130li\u015fkiler genellikle, a\u00e7\u0131k gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen ama ger\u00e7ekte yaray\u0131 daha da derinle\u015ftiren tekrarlayan ad\u0131mlar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden duraksar. Bunlar\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca erken fark etmek \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Konuyu tek bir konu\u015fmada kapatma giri\u015fimi.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u201c\u00c7ocuklar i\u00e7in katlanmak gerekiyor\u201d \u015feklinde kendinize bask\u0131 yapmak.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Yeni bir bilgi olmadan sonsuz sorgu.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u0130\u00e7ten i\u00e7e biriken k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131kla sessiz kalma.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- D\u00fcr\u00fcst anla\u015fmalar yerine takip etme.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- G\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrde huzuru sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in eski yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa erken d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Daha az fark edilen tuzaklar da var. Bazen e\u015f haftalarca kendini \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bir tarafla k\u0131yaslar ve bu, sadece kendisini utanca daha derine iter. Bazen e\u015f, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan her \u015feyin sakin g\u00f6r\u00fcnmesini ister, oysa \u00e7iftin i\u00e7inde hi\u00e7bir \u015fey d\u00fczeltilmemi\u015ftir. Bazen zarar g\u00f6ren taraf ‘zaman her \u015feyi iyile\u015ftirir’ fikrine tutunur ve zaman\u0131n kendi ba\u015f\u0131na ac\u0131n\u0131n yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmedi\u011fini fark etmez. Zaman, yaln\u0131zca duygular, s\u0131n\u0131rlar, al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar ve ger\u00e7eklikle ger\u00e7ek bir \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Resmi olarak birli\u011fin korundu\u011fu, ancak sayg\u0131, s\u0131cakl\u0131k, g\u00fcvenlik, konu\u015fma iste\u011fi gibi unsurlar\u0131n ortadan kalkt\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumlar da olabilir. D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan birlik var, ancak i\u00e7ten her \u015fey \u00e7oktan da\u011f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f. B\u00f6yle bir noktada kendini g\u00fczel etiketlerle kand\u0131rmamak \u00f6nemlidir. Ayn\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131 alt\u0131nda ya\u015famak ve bir birlik i\u00e7inde olmak ayn\u0131 \u015fey de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psikolog Ne Zaman Dahil Edilmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nBir uzman\u0131n deste\u011fi sadece bo\u015fanman\u0131n e\u015fi\u011finde olanlar i\u00e7in gerekmez. G\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131n \u00fcstesinden gelmekte, uyumakta, yemek yemek, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak veya ihanet d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bir \u015fey d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmekte zorlanan herkes i\u00e7in gereklidir. Haftalarca s\u00fcren kayg\u0131 azalm\u0131yorsa, v\u00fccut s\u00fcrekli bir gerginlik i\u00e7inde ya\u015f\u0131yorsa, tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 kontroller durmuyorsa, i\u00e7eride sadece \u00f6fke, bo\u015fluk ya da sersemlik varsa, bir psikolo\u011fun yard\u0131m\u0131 faydal\u0131 ve yerindedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130yi bir psikolog, e\u015fin \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in katlanmak zorunda oldu\u011funu veya e\u015fin evlilik ad\u0131na hemen affedilmesi gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6ylemez. Onun g\u00f6revi ba\u015fkad\u0131r: dayanak kazand\u0131rmak, duygusal g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcy\u00fc azaltmak, ger\u00e7ekleri g\u00f6rmeye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak, tekrarlayan modelleri fark etmek, nedenleri anlamak, \u00e7iftin kaynaklar\u0131n\u0131 ve her birinin ki\u015fisel s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011ferlendirmektir. Bazen \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar bireysel olarak y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fcl\u00fcr. Bazen her iki taraf da gelir. Bazen ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta daha fazla zarar g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f olan i\u00e7in ayr\u0131 bir a\u015fama gerekebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi, bunu tamamen kabul etmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 merak ediyor. Evrensel bir yan\u0131t yoktur. Baz\u0131 \u00e7iftler ger\u00e7ekten krizi atlat\u0131p daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst bir \u015fekilde \u00e7\u0131karlar. Di\u011ferleri yanlar\u0131nda kalman\u0131n kendilerini yok etmeden m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlar. \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcler ise iki karar aras\u0131nda aylarca s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kal\u0131rlar. Bu durumlar\u0131n hepsi ger\u00e7ektir. \u00d6nemli olan, kendinizi acele ettirmemek ve korkuyu netlik ile kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmamakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u015finizin aldatmas\u0131n\u0131 affetmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr, e\u011fer yan\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekler, \u00e7ifte ya\u015fam\u0131n sona erdirilmesi, ac\u0131ya sayg\u0131, yeni kurallar ve uzun bir g\u00fcvenin yeniden in\u015fas\u0131 i\u00e7in sab\u0131r varsa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u011fer yalan, sisli durumlar, bask\u0131, gizlilik ve sessizlik talebi tekrar ortaya \u00e7\u0131karsa, hayat s\u00fcrekli bir i\u00e7 gerilime d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. O zaman \u00f6nemli olan g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcy\u00fc kurtarmak de\u011fil, kendinizi kurtarmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sonu\u00e7 basit. Kocan\u0131n ihanetini, do\u011fru bir evlilik fikri i\u00e7in de\u011fil, i\u00e7 \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc geri kazanmak i\u00e7in affedebilirsin. Bazen bu yol ili\u015fkileri korumaya yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Bazen de huzurlu bir ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011fa g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her iki durumda da ama\u00e7 ayn\u0131d\u0131r: kendine destek bulmak, travma modunda de\u011fil de se\u00e7im yapma modunda yeniden var olmaya ba\u015flamak; kad\u0131n\u0131n ger\u00e7e\u011fi g\u00f6rmesi, erke\u011fin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan sorumlu olmas\u0131, bireyin kendine sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermesi, ili\u015fkinin yalan \u00fczerine kurulmamas\u0131 ve zaman\u0131n ac\u0131y\u0131 hafifletmek yerine iyile\u015ftirme y\u00f6n\u00fcnde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sorular ve Cevaplar<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nA\u015fa\u011f\u0131da, durumu hayalden uzak g\u00f6rmeye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olan s\u0131k\u00e7a sorulan sorular yer almaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u011fr\u0131 h\u0131zl\u0131 ge\u00e7mezse ihaneti kabul etmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nEvet, m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Kabul genellikle hemen sa\u011flanamaz. Acele etmektense, ger\u00e7eklerle, beden reaksiyonlar\u0131yla, s\u0131n\u0131rlarla ve se\u00e7im anlam\u0131yla d\u00fcr\u00fcst \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. \u0130hanet tekrarlan\u0131rsa affetmek daha zordur. \u0130hanet kabul edilip sonland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131rsa affetmek daha ger\u00e7ek\u00e7idir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130li\u015fkileri tutmak mant\u0131kl\u0131 oldu\u011funda ve ne zaman b\u0131rakman\u0131n gerekti\u011fi konusnda ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmelidir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u0130li\u015fki, sadece korkuya dayanm\u0131yorsa korunmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130li\u015fkiler ger\u00e7e\u011fe dayanabiliyorsa ve krizden sonra daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst hale geliyorsa yeniden in\u015fa edilebilir. E\u011fer ili\u015fkiler yeni yalanlarla besleniyorsa, kopmaktan daha fazla zarar verir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u015finizin bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l de\u011ferlendirmelisiniz?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nKocan\u0131z\u0131n s\u00f6zlerine de\u011fil, eylemlerine bakmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Kocan\u0131z\u0131n do\u011frudan yan\u0131t verecek cesareti varsa, ac\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcsleyebiliyorsa ve taahh\u00fctleri yerine getirebiliyorsa, \u015fans daha y\u00fcksektir. E\u011fer tekrar s\u0131rlar, bask\u0131 ve konudan ka\u00e7ma varsa g\u00fcven geri gelmez. Bu a\u015famada kocan\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 \u00f6nceki yeminlerden daha \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u00e7sel destek ve dengeyi geri kazanmak i\u00e7in ne yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nKendi \u00fczerine basit bir odaklanma yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Uyku, yemek, g\u00fcnl\u00fck ritim, y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fc\u015f, sessizlik, destek, terapi gerekli. Hayat\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck dilimlerle ya\u015famak, bir seferde t\u00fcm hayat\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktan daha kolayd\u0131r. Bazen hayat yava\u015f\u00e7a yeniden in\u015fa edilir. Bazen hayat aniden de\u011fi\u015fir. Her iki durumda da, se\u00e7imleriniz ger\u00e7ekler \u00fczerine kurulu oldu\u011funda hayat\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek daha kolayd\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yan\u0131n\u0131zda olgun bir partner oldu\u011funu nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nOlgun bir partner bo\u015f s\u00f6zlerin arkas\u0131na saklanmaz. Olgun bir partner, zarar g\u00f6ren taraf\u0131 kendi zay\u0131fl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla su\u00e7lamaz. Olgun bir partner zarar\u0131 kabul eder. Olgun bir partner g\u00fcvencenin de\u011ferini anlar. Olgun bir partner sonu\u00e7lara katlanmaya haz\u0131rd\u0131r. B\u00f6yle bir e\u015f mucizeler vaat etmez, yerine anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r ad\u0131mlar atar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Neden tek bir olaya geri d\u00f6nmeyi b\u0131rakmak bu kadar zor?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nBu, darbeden sonra zihnin nas\u0131l \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klar. Zihin kontrol\u00fc geri kazanmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Ma\u011fdur taraf durumu toparlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Anlam arar. Aldatman\u0131n nerede ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmek \u00f6nemlidir. Birli\u011fin bir temeli olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamak \u00f6nemlidir. S\u0131k s\u0131k zihin, olay\u0131n tamamlanmas\u0131n\u0131 arad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelere tekrar tekrar d\u00f6ner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Evde \u00e7ocuk varsa neyi dikkate almak \u00f6nemlidir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\u00c7ocuklar yan\u0131n\u0131zdayken, yeti\u015fkinlerin \u00f6zel bir disipline ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n bulundu\u011fu bir konu\u015fma bile fazlad\u0131r. Ama bazen sakin bir ak\u015fam, on g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcl\u00fc sahneden daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 verebilir. \u00c7ocuk i\u00e7in ailede g\u00fcvenlik ve \u00f6nceden tahmin edilebilirlik \u00f6nemlidir. Ev, yak\u0131nl\u0131k i\u00e7in ilk modeli olu\u015fturur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gelecek hafta ne yapmal\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nBir sonraki a\u015famada \u00fc\u00e7 durumu de\u011ferlendirmek faydal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130lki ger\u00e7e\u011fin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterir. \u0130kincisi, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 hareketi g\u00f6sterir. \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcs\u00fc, ac\u0131 ile a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131k aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fkiyi g\u00f6sterir. E\u011fer konu\u015fma daha fazla belirsizlik getiriyorsa, d\u00fczen yerine, sonu\u00e7 zaten g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne zaman kalmal\u0131, ne zaman gitmeli?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nKarar herkes ad\u0131na al\u0131namaz. Ancak bir k\u0131lavuz var. E\u011fer ikinci partner hasar\u0131 kabul ediyorsa, yeni yalanlara sapm\u0131yorsa ve ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak istiyorsa, bir \u015fans vard\u0131r. E\u011fer ikinci partner \u00f6nemli olan\u0131 yine sakl\u0131yorsa ve beraberlik sadece korkudan ibaretse, gitmek bazen daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ger\u00e7ek iyile\u015fme ne g\u00f6steriyor<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\nBazen kad\u0131n, ihaneti unutmadan affetmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Bazen kad\u0131n, e\u011fer erkek yeniden yalan s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorsa kocas\u0131n\u0131 affedip edemeyece\u011fini sorar. Bazen kad\u0131n, ihaneti silemeyece\u011fini anlar, ancak yine de affetmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funu kabul eder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u011fer bir erkek kalmaya niyetliyse, bunu kelimelerle de\u011fil, eylemlerle g\u00f6stermelidir. E\u011fer erkek ili\u015fkiyi yeniden kurmak istiyorsa kurallar\u0131 kabul eder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Partner ac\u0131y\u0131 tolere ederken, kad\u0131n vaat de\u011fil, bir ger\u00e7e\u011fi g\u00f6r\u00fcr. O zaman ki\u015fi sadece katlanmak yerine ya\u015famaya devam etme \u015fans\u0131 elde eder. Bir ki\u015fi g\u00fcveni k\u0131rabilir, ancak ba\u015fka bir ki\u015fi iyile\u015fmeyi destekleyebilir. Ki\u015fi, yaras\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst\u00e7e g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde kendisi de de\u011fi\u015fir. B\u00f6yle i\u015fte, ili\u015fkiler dekorasyon olmay\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131r. Birlik anlam kazan\u0131r. Aile ger\u00e7ek \u00fczerine kurulur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kad\u0131n ihaneti net bir \u015fekilde g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Ki\u015fi, ihaneti mazeretsiz bir \u015fekilde adland\u0131r\u0131r. Ba\u015fka bir yol daha m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr: \u0130hanet kabul edilebilir ve saklamaktan vazge\u00e7ilir. Evet, ili\u015fkiler do\u011fruluk gerektirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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\u0130\u00e7erik Yak\u0131n birinin ihaneti g\u00fcveni, al\u0131\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f d\u00fczeni, evin g\u00fcvenli bir yer olarak alg\u0131lanmas\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131kar. Bu materyal, darbeyi a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanmadan nas\u0131l atlataca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, ili\u015fkileri nas\u0131l tarafs\u0131z de\u011ferlendirece\u011finizi, kocan\u0131z\u0131n…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":15,"featured_media":14495,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_yoast_wpseo_title":"Kocan\u0131n Aldatmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00dcstesinden Gelmek ve Karar Vermek","_yoast_wpseo_metadesc":"Kocan\u0131z\u0131n aldatmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcstesinden nas\u0131l gelinir, deste\u011fi nas\u0131l yeniden kurars\u0131n\u0131z, ili\u015fkinizi kurtarma imkan\u0131 olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z ve ne zaman bir psikolo\u011fa ba\u015fvurmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.","_yoast_wpseo_meta-robots-noindex":"","_yoast_wpseo_meta-robots-nofollow":"","_yoast_wpseo_canonical":"","_momslab_schema_type":"","footnotes":"","tstyn_error":""},"categories":[745],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14871","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yararli-ipuclari-tr"],"yoast_head":"\n
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Konu\u015fma, bir sahne yaratmak i\u00e7in de\u011fil, netlik sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in gereklidir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc netlik olmadan olanda bar\u0131\u015f\u0131k kalmak neredeyse imkans\u0131zd\u0131r, beyin bo\u015fluklara yap\u0131\u015f\u0131r ve en korkun\u00e7unu in\u015fa etmeye ba\u015flar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir sohbette sadece i\u00e7erik de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda tarz da \u00f6nemlidir. \u00d6nceden ne \u00f6\u011frenmek gerekti\u011fini, hangi bilgilerin temel oldu\u011funu ve bir sonraki ad\u0131m i\u00e7in hangi ko\u015fullar\u0131n gerekli oldu\u011funu belirlemek faydal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u015eu \u015femaya g\u00f6re ilerlemek uygundur:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- \u015eu ana kadar \u00f6\u011frenilenleri k\u0131saca belirtin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Sald\u0131rmadan ve savunmadan konu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 isteyin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Kar\u015f\u0131 tarafla ileti\u015fimin kesildi\u011fi netle\u015ftirilsin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Art\u0131k hangi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n zorunlu oldu\u011funu belirleyin.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Anla\u015fmalar\u0131n kontrol format\u0131n\u0131n kabul edilebilir oldu\u011funu tart\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Partner hatay\u0131 kabul etti\u011finde, konuyu e\u015fine kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7evirmedi\u011finde, do\u011frudan yan\u0131t verdi\u011finde, g\u00f6zya\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00f6fkeyi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemedi\u011finde d\u00fcr\u00fcst \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma \u015fanslar\u0131 daha y\u00fcksektir. Partner sorular\u0131n var olmas\u0131na k\u0131zd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, konuyu kapatmay\u0131 talep etti\u011finde, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 dramdan bahsetti\u011finde, partneri k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131kla su\u00e7lad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda iyile\u015fme \u00e7ok daha zor ilerler. Burada \u00f6nemli olan g\u00fczel vaatlere de\u011fil, tekrarlayan davran\u0131\u015flara bakmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Birlik halen ne zaman kurtar\u0131labilir<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Her ihanet sonras\u0131 evlilik mahkum de\u011fildir. Bazen ili\u015fkileri yeniden bir araya getirmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr, ancak bu, her iki taraf\u0131n da ger\u00e7ek eylemlerini gerektirir. Biri unutmay\u0131 isteyip di\u011feri t\u00fcm ac\u0131y\u0131 tek ba\u015f\u0131na ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, denge geri gelmez. \u0130li\u015fkiler ancak zarar kabul edildi\u011finde, ili\u015fkinin taraf d\u0131\u015f\u0131 oldu\u011fu, kurallar\u0131n belirlendi\u011fi ve sonu\u00e7lar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda sabr\u0131n oldu\u011fu yerde yeniden in\u015fa edilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u015fa\u011f\u0131da belirtilerin tabloda kontrol edilmesi faydal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Belirti<\/strong><\/td> Yeniden yap\u0131land\u0131rma \u015fans\u0131<\/strong><\/td> Endi\u015fe verici sinyal<\/strong><\/td><\/tr> Ger\u00e7e\u011fin kabul\u00fc<\/td> Davran\u0131\u015f do\u011frudan adland\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f<\/td> \u0130nkar, kar\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131k, ka\u00e7\u0131nma var<\/td><\/tr> Ac\u0131ya kar\u015f\u0131 tutum<\/td> Empati ve dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k var<\/td> K\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k ve so\u011fukluk var<\/td><\/tr> Yeni kurallar<\/td> Tart\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131p uygulan\u0131yor<\/td> Sabote ediliyorlar<\/td><\/tr> Taraf d\u0131\u015f\u0131 temas<\/td> Sonlanm\u0131\u015f<\/td> Devam ediyor<\/td><\/tr> Birlik \u00fczerinde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma<\/td> Her iki taraf da dahil<\/td> \u00c7abay\u0131 bir ki\u015fi ta\u015f\u0131yor<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n Nedenleri de dikkate almak faydal\u0131 olabilir. Bazen aldatma, uzun s\u00fcreli bir krizin sonucu, konu\u015fmalardan ka\u00e7\u0131nma, olgunla\u015fmam\u0131\u015fl\u0131k, kendi \u00f6nemini do\u011frulama al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n sonucu olabilir. Bazen aldatma, aldatman\u0131n karaktere yerle\u015fmi\u015f oldu\u011fu s\u00fcrekli bir ya\u015fam tarz\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterir. Fark b\u00fcy\u00fck. \u0130lk durumda bir \u015fans vard\u0131r. \u0130kinci durumda, ili\u015fkiler genellikle sadece bir taraf\u0131n i\u00e7 ac\u0131dan daha b\u00fcy\u00fck de\u011fi\u015fiklik korkusu y\u00fcz\u00fcnden s\u00fcrer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/figure>\n\n\n\nKarar verirken nelere dikkat edilmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Kararlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n tavsiyelerine de\u011fil, ger\u00e7ekli\u011fin g\u00f6zlemlerine dayand\u0131rmak daha iyidir. \u00d6nemli olan sadece ne oldu\u011fu de\u011fil, sonras\u0131nda ne olaca\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Krizin a\u00e7\u0131\u011fa \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u015famada, partnerin sonu\u00e7lara katlanabilme yetene\u011fi, zarar\u0131 kabul etme, davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirme, anla\u015fmalara sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterme ve g\u00fcveni eylemlerle yeniden kazanma becerisi g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Burada birka\u00e7 destek yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Kendi de\u011ferinizi ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131ndan ay\u0131rman\u0131z gerekir.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Bir evlili\u011fin her ko\u015fulda s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclmesi gerekti\u011fi fikrinden vazge\u00e7mek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Sadece net s\u0131n\u0131rlar \u00e7izildi\u011finde birlikte ya\u015famaya devam edilebilece\u011fini kabul etmek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- D\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn m\u00fc artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 yoksa sadece yorgunlu\u011fun mu b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6rmek gerekiyor.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
B\u00f6yle bir d\u00f6nemde e\u015f genellikle iki korku aras\u0131nda bocalar. Bir yandan, tek ba\u015f\u0131na kalmak ve yeni bir sayfa a\u00e7mak korkutucu olabilir. Ayn\u0131 zamanda, yeniden inanmak ve sonra tekrar hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011framak da korku verir. E\u015f de genellikle kendi kriziyle bo\u011fu\u015fur, ancak bu sorumlulu\u011fu ortadan kald\u0131rmaz. Yaray\u0131 a\u00e7an ki\u015fi, rahats\u0131zl\u0131ktan \u015fikayet etmek yerine d\u00fczenin yeniden sa\u011flanmas\u0131na kat\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7ocuklar\u0131 unutmamak da \u00f6nemli. E\u011fer evde \u00e7ocuk varsa, bir ebeveynin di\u011ferini k\u00f6t\u00fc g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi bir sahneye ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 yoktur. Onlara \u00e7er\u00e7eveyi koruyan, onlar\u0131 yarg\u0131\u00e7 yapmayan, bir taraf se\u00e7meye zorlamayan bir yeti\u015fkin gereklidir. Ailede kriz nas\u0131l ya\u015fan\u0131rsa, bu sadece mevcut ya\u015fam bi\u00e7imini de\u011fil, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n gelecekteki yak\u0131nl\u0131k, sayg\u0131 ve g\u00fcven anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 da etkiler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u011fr\u0131y\u0131 uzatan hatalar<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\u0130li\u015fkiler genellikle, a\u00e7\u0131k gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen ama ger\u00e7ekte yaray\u0131 daha da derinle\u015ftiren tekrarlayan ad\u0131mlar y\u00fcz\u00fcnden duraksar. Bunlar\u0131 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funca erken fark etmek \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Konuyu tek bir konu\u015fmada kapatma giri\u015fimi.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u201c\u00c7ocuklar i\u00e7in katlanmak gerekiyor\u201d \u015feklinde kendinize bask\u0131 yapmak.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Yeni bir bilgi olmadan sonsuz sorgu.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u0130\u00e7ten i\u00e7e biriken k\u0131rg\u0131nl\u0131kla sessiz kalma.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- D\u00fcr\u00fcst anla\u015fmalar yerine takip etme.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- G\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrde huzuru sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in eski yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa erken d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Daha az fark edilen tuzaklar da var. Bazen e\u015f haftalarca kendini \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bir tarafla k\u0131yaslar ve bu, sadece kendisini utanca daha derine iter. Bazen e\u015f, d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan her \u015feyin sakin g\u00f6r\u00fcnmesini ister, oysa \u00e7iftin i\u00e7inde hi\u00e7bir \u015fey d\u00fczeltilmemi\u015ftir. Bazen zarar g\u00f6ren taraf ‘zaman her \u015feyi iyile\u015ftirir’ fikrine tutunur ve zaman\u0131n kendi ba\u015f\u0131na ac\u0131n\u0131n yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmedi\u011fini fark etmez. Zaman, yaln\u0131zca duygular, s\u0131n\u0131rlar, al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar ve ger\u00e7eklikle ger\u00e7ek bir \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma yap\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Resmi olarak birli\u011fin korundu\u011fu, ancak sayg\u0131, s\u0131cakl\u0131k, g\u00fcvenlik, konu\u015fma iste\u011fi gibi unsurlar\u0131n ortadan kalkt\u0131\u011f\u0131 durumlar da olabilir. D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan birlik var, ancak i\u00e7ten her \u015fey \u00e7oktan da\u011f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f. B\u00f6yle bir noktada kendini g\u00fczel etiketlerle kand\u0131rmamak \u00f6nemlidir. Ayn\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131 alt\u0131nda ya\u015famak ve bir birlik i\u00e7inde olmak ayn\u0131 \u015fey de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Psikolog Ne Zaman Dahil Edilmeli<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Bir uzman\u0131n deste\u011fi sadece bo\u015fanman\u0131n e\u015fi\u011finde olanlar i\u00e7in gerekmez. G\u00fcndelik hayat\u0131n \u00fcstesinden gelmekte, uyumakta, yemek yemek, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak veya ihanet d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bir \u015fey d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmekte zorlanan herkes i\u00e7in gereklidir. Haftalarca s\u00fcren kayg\u0131 azalm\u0131yorsa, v\u00fccut s\u00fcrekli bir gerginlik i\u00e7inde ya\u015f\u0131yorsa, tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 kontroller durmuyorsa, i\u00e7eride sadece \u00f6fke, bo\u015fluk ya da sersemlik varsa, bir psikolo\u011fun yard\u0131m\u0131 faydal\u0131 ve yerindedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130yi bir psikolog, e\u015fin \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in katlanmak zorunda oldu\u011funu veya e\u015fin evlilik ad\u0131na hemen affedilmesi gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6ylemez. Onun g\u00f6revi ba\u015fkad\u0131r: dayanak kazand\u0131rmak, duygusal g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcy\u00fc azaltmak, ger\u00e7ekleri g\u00f6rmeye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak, tekrarlayan modelleri fark etmek, nedenleri anlamak, \u00e7iftin kaynaklar\u0131n\u0131 ve her birinin ki\u015fisel s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 de\u011ferlendirmektir. Bazen \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar bireysel olarak y\u00fcr\u00fct\u00fcl\u00fcr. Bazen her iki taraf da gelir. Bazen ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta daha fazla zarar g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f olan i\u00e7in ayr\u0131 bir a\u015fama gerekebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi, bunu tamamen kabul etmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 merak ediyor. Evrensel bir yan\u0131t yoktur. Baz\u0131 \u00e7iftler ger\u00e7ekten krizi atlat\u0131p daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst bir \u015fekilde \u00e7\u0131karlar. Di\u011ferleri yanlar\u0131nda kalman\u0131n kendilerini yok etmeden m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlar. \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcler ise iki karar aras\u0131nda aylarca s\u0131k\u0131\u015f\u0131p kal\u0131rlar. Bu durumlar\u0131n hepsi ger\u00e7ektir. \u00d6nemli olan, kendinizi acele ettirmemek ve korkuyu netlik ile kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmamakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u015finizin aldatmas\u0131n\u0131 affetmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr, e\u011fer yan\u0131nda ger\u00e7ekler, \u00e7ifte ya\u015fam\u0131n sona erdirilmesi, ac\u0131ya sayg\u0131, yeni kurallar ve uzun bir g\u00fcvenin yeniden in\u015fas\u0131 i\u00e7in sab\u0131r varsa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u011fer yalan, sisli durumlar, bask\u0131, gizlilik ve sessizlik talebi tekrar ortaya \u00e7\u0131karsa, hayat s\u00fcrekli bir i\u00e7 gerilime d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. O zaman \u00f6nemli olan g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcy\u00fc kurtarmak de\u011fil, kendinizi kurtarmakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sonu\u00e7 basit. Kocan\u0131n ihanetini, do\u011fru bir evlilik fikri i\u00e7in de\u011fil, i\u00e7 \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc geri kazanmak i\u00e7in affedebilirsin. Bazen bu yol ili\u015fkileri korumaya yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Bazen de huzurlu bir ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011fa g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her iki durumda da ama\u00e7 ayn\u0131d\u0131r: kendine destek bulmak, travma modunda de\u011fil de se\u00e7im yapma modunda yeniden var olmaya ba\u015flamak; kad\u0131n\u0131n ger\u00e7e\u011fi g\u00f6rmesi, erke\u011fin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan sorumlu olmas\u0131, bireyin kendine sayg\u0131 g\u00f6stermesi, ili\u015fkinin yalan \u00fczerine kurulmamas\u0131 ve zaman\u0131n ac\u0131y\u0131 hafifletmek yerine iyile\u015ftirme y\u00f6n\u00fcnde \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sorular ve Cevaplar<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
A\u015fa\u011f\u0131da, durumu hayalden uzak g\u00f6rmeye yard\u0131mc\u0131 olan s\u0131k\u00e7a sorulan sorular yer almaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A\u011fr\u0131 h\u0131zl\u0131 ge\u00e7mezse ihaneti kabul etmek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn m\u00fc?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Evet, m\u00fcmk\u00fcn. Kabul genellikle hemen sa\u011flanamaz. Acele etmektense, ger\u00e7eklerle, beden reaksiyonlar\u0131yla, s\u0131n\u0131rlarla ve se\u00e7im anlam\u0131yla d\u00fcr\u00fcst \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. \u0130hanet tekrarlan\u0131rsa affetmek daha zordur. \u0130hanet kabul edilip sonland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131rsa affetmek daha ger\u00e7ek\u00e7idir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130li\u015fkileri tutmak mant\u0131kl\u0131 oldu\u011funda ve ne zaman b\u0131rakman\u0131n gerekti\u011fi konusnda ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclmelidir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130li\u015fki, sadece korkuya dayanm\u0131yorsa korunmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130li\u015fkiler ger\u00e7e\u011fe dayanabiliyorsa ve krizden sonra daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst hale geliyorsa yeniden in\u015fa edilebilir. E\u011fer ili\u015fkiler yeni yalanlarla besleniyorsa, kopmaktan daha fazla zarar verir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u015finizin bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l de\u011ferlendirmelisiniz?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kocan\u0131z\u0131n s\u00f6zlerine de\u011fil, eylemlerine bakmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Kocan\u0131z\u0131n do\u011frudan yan\u0131t verecek cesareti varsa, ac\u0131y\u0131 g\u00f6\u011f\u00fcsleyebiliyorsa ve taahh\u00fctleri yerine getirebiliyorsa, \u015fans daha y\u00fcksektir. E\u011fer tekrar s\u0131rlar, bask\u0131 ve konudan ka\u00e7ma varsa g\u00fcven geri gelmez. Bu a\u015famada kocan\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 \u00f6nceki yeminlerden daha \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u00e7sel destek ve dengeyi geri kazanmak i\u00e7in ne yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kendi \u00fczerine basit bir odaklanma yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Uyku, yemek, g\u00fcnl\u00fck ritim, y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fc\u015f, sessizlik, destek, terapi gerekli. Hayat\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck dilimlerle ya\u015famak, bir seferde t\u00fcm hayat\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktan daha kolayd\u0131r. Bazen hayat yava\u015f\u00e7a yeniden in\u015fa edilir. Bazen hayat aniden de\u011fi\u015fir. Her iki durumda da, se\u00e7imleriniz ger\u00e7ekler \u00fczerine kurulu oldu\u011funda hayat\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek daha kolayd\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Yan\u0131n\u0131zda olgun bir partner oldu\u011funu nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Olgun bir partner bo\u015f s\u00f6zlerin arkas\u0131na saklanmaz. Olgun bir partner, zarar g\u00f6ren taraf\u0131 kendi zay\u0131fl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla su\u00e7lamaz. Olgun bir partner zarar\u0131 kabul eder. Olgun bir partner g\u00fcvencenin de\u011ferini anlar. Olgun bir partner sonu\u00e7lara katlanmaya haz\u0131rd\u0131r. B\u00f6yle bir e\u015f mucizeler vaat etmez, yerine anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r ad\u0131mlar atar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Neden tek bir olaya geri d\u00f6nmeyi b\u0131rakmak bu kadar zor?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bu, darbeden sonra zihnin nas\u0131l \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klar. Zihin kontrol\u00fc geri kazanmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Ma\u011fdur taraf durumu toparlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Anlam arar. Aldatman\u0131n nerede ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rmek \u00f6nemlidir. Birli\u011fin bir temeli olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamak \u00f6nemlidir. S\u0131k s\u0131k zihin, olay\u0131n tamamlanmas\u0131n\u0131 arad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelere tekrar tekrar d\u00f6ner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Evde \u00e7ocuk varsa neyi dikkate almak \u00f6nemlidir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00c7ocuklar yan\u0131n\u0131zdayken, yeti\u015fkinlerin \u00f6zel bir disipline ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n bulundu\u011fu bir konu\u015fma bile fazlad\u0131r. Ama bazen sakin bir ak\u015fam, on g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcl\u00fc sahneden daha fazlas\u0131n\u0131 verebilir. \u00c7ocuk i\u00e7in ailede g\u00fcvenlik ve \u00f6nceden tahmin edilebilirlik \u00f6nemlidir. Ev, yak\u0131nl\u0131k i\u00e7in ilk modeli olu\u015fturur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gelecek hafta ne yapmal\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir sonraki a\u015famada \u00fc\u00e7 durumu de\u011ferlendirmek faydal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130lki ger\u00e7e\u011fin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterir. \u0130kincisi, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 hareketi g\u00f6sterir. \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcs\u00fc, ac\u0131 ile a\u00e7\u0131kl\u0131k aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fkiyi g\u00f6sterir. E\u011fer konu\u015fma daha fazla belirsizlik getiriyorsa, d\u00fczen yerine, sonu\u00e7 zaten g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ne zaman kalmal\u0131, ne zaman gitmeli?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Karar herkes ad\u0131na al\u0131namaz. Ancak bir k\u0131lavuz var. E\u011fer ikinci partner hasar\u0131 kabul ediyorsa, yeni yalanlara sapm\u0131yorsa ve ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak istiyorsa, bir \u015fans vard\u0131r. E\u011fer ikinci partner \u00f6nemli olan\u0131 yine sakl\u0131yorsa ve beraberlik sadece korkudan ibaretse, gitmek bazen daha d\u00fcr\u00fcst olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ger\u00e7ek iyile\u015fme ne g\u00f6steriyor<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Bazen kad\u0131n, ihaneti unutmadan affetmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Bazen kad\u0131n, e\u011fer erkek yeniden yalan s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorsa kocas\u0131n\u0131 affedip edemeyece\u011fini sorar. Bazen kad\u0131n, ihaneti silemeyece\u011fini anlar, ancak yine de affetmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funu kabul eder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u011fer bir erkek kalmaya niyetliyse, bunu kelimelerle de\u011fil, eylemlerle g\u00f6stermelidir. E\u011fer erkek ili\u015fkiyi yeniden kurmak istiyorsa kurallar\u0131 kabul eder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Partner ac\u0131y\u0131 tolere ederken, kad\u0131n vaat de\u011fil, bir ger\u00e7e\u011fi g\u00f6r\u00fcr. O zaman ki\u015fi sadece katlanmak yerine ya\u015famaya devam etme \u015fans\u0131 elde eder. Bir ki\u015fi g\u00fcveni k\u0131rabilir, ancak ba\u015fka bir ki\u015fi iyile\u015fmeyi destekleyebilir. Ki\u015fi, yaras\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst\u00e7e g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde kendisi de de\u011fi\u015fir. B\u00f6yle i\u015fte, ili\u015fkiler dekorasyon olmay\u0131 b\u0131rak\u0131r. Birlik anlam kazan\u0131r. Aile ger\u00e7ek \u00fczerine kurulur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kad\u0131n ihaneti net bir \u015fekilde g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Ki\u015fi, ihaneti mazeretsiz bir \u015fekilde adland\u0131r\u0131r. Ba\u015fka bir yol daha m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr: \u0130hanet kabul edilebilir ve saklamaktan vazge\u00e7ilir. Evet, ili\u015fkiler do\u011fruluk gerektirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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\u0130\u00e7erik Yak\u0131n birinin ihaneti g\u00fcveni, al\u0131\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f d\u00fczeni, evin g\u00fcvenli bir yer olarak alg\u0131lanmas\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131kar. Bu materyal, darbeyi a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanmadan nas\u0131l atlataca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131, ili\u015fkileri nas\u0131l tarafs\u0131z de\u011ferlendirece\u011finizi, kocan\u0131z\u0131n…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":15,"featured_media":14495,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_yoast_wpseo_title":"Kocan\u0131n Aldatmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00dcstesinden Gelmek ve Karar Vermek","_yoast_wpseo_metadesc":"Kocan\u0131z\u0131n aldatmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcstesinden nas\u0131l gelinir, deste\u011fi nas\u0131l yeniden kurars\u0131n\u0131z, ili\u015fkinizi kurtarma imkan\u0131 olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 nas\u0131l anlars\u0131n\u0131z ve ne zaman bir psikolo\u011fa ba\u015fvurmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.","_yoast_wpseo_meta-robots-noindex":"","_yoast_wpseo_meta-robots-nofollow":"","_yoast_wpseo_canonical":"","_momslab_schema_type":"","footnotes":"","tstyn_error":""},"categories":[745],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14871","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yararli-ipuclari-tr"],"yoast_head":"\n
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